So help on non contact but getting WH assistance??? I am looking to have as little contact as possible at the moment because it is not doing me any good and is giving the message I will always be here no matter what.. and that is not the case..
To be clear we have minimal contact .. telephone once or twice a week..he visits once every 3rd or 4th weekend..
but I need the help of my WH...
The house we are trying to sell, that I live in,needs continued garden maintenance now summer is here..keeping it in a condition that viewers can see is a lot of work and I do not see why I am being left to do it alone..while he has all the free time he says he needs.. I need to visit the new area where he lives and I need help with the language, transport etc.Since the decision to sell and move was a result of his new job and the need to do it alone is a result of his new affair..I feel like he can help out...
So how do I get him to meet his responsibility for the house and also to help me with the move and not be a pursuer..to maintain that distance..
I also need to not sound in any way controlling or pursuing or managing or any other synonym you can think of..
I thought to create a calendar with what is needed when - on which weekends, and ask him to tell me which days he will be able to be here to work and which days he will be able to help in the new town.
Sounds controlling to me even as I write.. is there another way to meet my need to get help and not be a controlling W?????
