Thanks Sandi it was a tough one for me to see like that, but I'm proud of how I handled it, and this morning, I gave my kids hugs and kisses, she came in, I said hello, and went out the basement door to get on with my day. Smooth with no backsliding. She has texted me to know where I want the kids tomorrow, but I haven't responded yet, and won't for awhile
Oxford, I understand what you are saying completely. I have felt that my wife believes that she still has me as an option if she needs it. However, I have not said a word leaning towards this except for the two weeks after BD, when i was in a teeny tiny bit of shock. With my actions, it should be becoming clearer to her that she has lost me. I do not contact her about anything really, minimal with the kids as required. When I see her, I'm showing my PMA, singing songs, happy go lucky, but conversation is at at a minimum. I no longer protect her from her actions in any way. I am just trying to be consistent and maintain my current boundaries.
I know the danger of her feeling that she still has me, that is no good! Thanks for the advice. The reminder is critical and much appreciated
