I'm sorry you aren't feeling well today...but...why do you continue to have conversations about the settlement w/your h? These subjects should be directed to your lawyer and not to you. If your h had a lawyer, that person would be negotiating w/your lawyer. As for him being in contact w/his former lawyer...trust me...he's paying for the guidance, just as you are.
Trust your lawyer because he knows what he's doing. Your h is trying to sway you over to his way of thinking by pulling out that conversation again today. Time for him to get off the soap box and stop the used car saleman stuff. Oh, yes, he's still doing it even today. He's not going to stop planting the seed in your brain that your lawyer is pulling the wool over your eyes until you finally agree w/him.
If it goes to trial, so be it. It might be the best thing to happen because then he will finally stop w/all of the bait and switch bs he loves to pull on you. He's no friend of yours because if he were, he would be working w/you to end this mess here and now.
Learn to cut the conversation short and advise him to contact your lawyer to discuss the situation. Time to set your boundaries and not allow this man to ruin each and every holiday and time you have w/your children.
Again, he's planting seeds in your mind to make you anxious and nervous about what may or may not transpire. He really is very good at being a salesman. What a con artist! Just remember, he's not looking out for your best interests...but he is looking out for himself and himself only.
Stop listening to him! He's not a friend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
