Why is it I still feel the need to help my WAS? Why is it I still care so much about someone who is treating me so badly and destroying my family?
My wife has lost so much weight that our daughters teacher asked her if she was ill. She fits into clothes from before we were married and all she can say is how "ugly" her thighs are! I am being totally honest when I say her thighs as close to perfect as possible in real life. Add that she is 47 years old and they are nearly a mericle. She has lost her butt, and is starting to look anorexic. Today she was upset and getting ready to go run and got angry at me for saying I thought her thighs were great. Then she looked in the mirror and because she has lost so much weight, her shoulders are bony and look broad because of that. She says "I think my shoulders are broader than yours".
Now I'm not bragging here so don't think badly of me, butt with all the exercise I've been doing since B-day, I'm in fantastic shape. Better than I've ever been in my life and I have very broad shoulders. A lot broader than here, that's certain. Why are they so obsessed with their looks? Why do they care more about this stuff than what they are doing to the people they love?
Another thing..... Since B-day she refuses to even think about going to church, even on Easter Sunday! It's like she avoids it with all she has. Of course, she wants me to go, alone and actually gets upset if I don't but she won't. I asked her once about this and she said she doesn't need to go to a church to "be with God". She said she listens to the birds singing in the AM and that is all she needs to be close to God. Why is it MLCers lose all their ties to God? Is it that that part of themselves is so ashamed of what they are doing they just can't face it? I see posts all the time where good, church going men and women end up having affairs and going crazy during their MLC and all of them seem to lose this grounding tie to God. Just food for thought.
