It's good to be able to accept it, as you say. Then you can look at the whole situation more rationally than emotionally.
Being able to accept it though doesn't mean you want to be D'd or have to pull the trigger. Just means you've come far enough to know you'll be ok, if D is what has to happen.
Until she's done with OM, there will be lots of games. I'd say that right now, she's dealing with being in complete control, and she hasn't got the confidence yet to go through with the D. She may get there, she may not.
