She's returning home for in house separation!

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Hi Mr. Bond

You wrote on my original,thread in response to one of my posts:
""I have repented over and over about my ills."

That repentance is how you feel that you've forgiven yourself. But evidently your W didn't.

"I know she did not have to go to him, but he is such a Casanova."

But to be honest, if she wanted to be with you she wouldn't have even entertained the thought of going with him.

"I do know she plans on moving home after Aprul 15. So if I am so evil why would she move back home?"

That's what you don't understand. You're not "evil". She just chooses not to be with you right now. Because you share kids together and are married, right now she sees it as a shackle. And again, that's just the way she feels right now.

What you can do right now is to write down the things that used to make her family both things that you did alone and things you did as a family. Slowly work those things in. Continue to go and have fun with you son and do things that she never would have wanted to do.

So my question is do you mean slowly add back,things we did as a Family. Like today going to the gym, going for a walk. But as you may be aware she's still treating me like her friend and still has her OM, even though he is 6,000 Miles away.. Do I continue to add back In more things do I detach. I have come to the point if our marriage ends I will survive I can move on. I have done all my hurting. But now that she's back in my life I feel it will be easier if it ends then what happened. Where she ran away told me to never speak to her again and boom we were,getting divorced. MF'er me having her back being friendly will actually soften the blow she and if it happens.

"How am I supposed to handle her? I keep hearing to do the 180 but it is hard when there is a kid involved and even harder that I am so addicted to her."

It's not hard with a kid at all. I mean I have two kids and was able to detach. You can do it. Just lose the ego and read up on how couples communicate. Use this time to become a student of your W. See what patterns you may be missing.