She's returning home for in house separation!

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I guess what I am asking is how do I live with her, in separate bedrooms.

I think the most important thing here is to realise that right now she isnt filling the role of "your wife" as she's chosen to check out of this role, therefore DONT treat her like your wife. Treat her like an aquaintance, be polite but that's as far as it goes.

I know everyone says 180 her, but what so I not go for a walk, do I not do things with her.

You shouldnt be 180 her, DB is for YOU first and foremost to get you into a place where regardless what happens in your marriage you will be happy.

Right now your her fall back guy - Personally I wouldn't be going for walks or to the gym with her, not at this stage. You should be living YOUR life, going out doing YOUR things & working on YOU instead of doing things that your wife asks and spending all of your time worrying about how to act around your wife.

There is a reason they say to "act as if" because at first your acting but quicker than you realise those actions become natural and you'll begin to find yourself moving forwards.

Ok I have been reading DR. It's been helping somewhat.
We did go to the gym today and go for a walk because the walk was a catharsis.

I did notice that her texts to OM were not all lovey dovy after our walk.

Thing is I am trying to work on me. I am trying to detach. We only used to go to the gym together on Sat and Sunday.
The rest of the week we pretty much do live seperate lives.

I don't know what she tells OM on the phone but on her texts she does not tell him we are together.
She admitted that he is so freaked out...I did see how he texted her fifteen times today between 10 Am and 11. He is saying I am worried are you ok, what does he think I am going to kill her,? I am madly in love with her.

I just want her to see me for tHe best husband AND the changes I have gone through.

I mean we have. 32 year history not 2 years as friends and eight months.as an EA THEN Pa.
The only reason I went to the gym is because her shoulder is injured..I swear I think the OM did something.

So since I went and did things today isn't it going to be obvious if I just stop??

I know Michele says a lot of affairs burn out on there own.

Her video seemed to tell one to have business as normal and ignore the affair.