She's returning home for in house separation!

[Upwards]

I seriously feel like i'm banging my head against a brick wall here, i'm absolutely not an expert on DB but I can clearly see that you've been given some fantastic advice from a wide range of people and you seem to be ignoring every single one of them.

You keep acknowledging that you need to stop focusing on your W and OM yet 98% of your posts are about W/OM!! To me this seems like a competition to you, you dont want OM to win the "prize" so you'll do anything it takes to stop that.

I asked her to please stop talking about him or mentioning anything they did together.
She apologized and said she will stop.

Its all well & good you asking HER to stop but it seems YOUR the one also bringing up the conversations about OM!!

We went for a walk and somehow got into relationship talking which led to is talking about me VS om

Because YOU directed the conversation that way!!

I am still reading DR. I am reading that at the same time as Boundaries so,I am only about half done.

I read DB within a day and several times since, I was so desperate to find a way forwards, I cant understand how you haven't found time for this yet?!

I think it's because she has mentioned he [censored] in bed!

She told you she'd said this?

But I don't think she is really in love with him!

She might be, she might not be - that doesnt matter right now! Fact is she's choosing to be in a R with HIM, I know this hurts like hell but you need to ACCEPT this before you can move forwards.

I know we had some abuse but I don't see her leaving me just for this

What abuse?