Loot and lawyers ...

[Train]

My guess is that his partner isn't aware that your husband will not be continuing the pay the mortgage as part of that ^^^.

Unfortunately, the CS figure includes his share of the kids mortgage. I'm just thinking I'd rather go ahead and take it to court than to try to "settle" outside of court. I think I'll take my chances with a judge - you know, give him the basics: H abandoned our M and family for OW. I have been a SAHM for 7.5 years.

The circumstances aren't pretty and, IMO, aren't favorable to H. And L even said he thinks a judge would award me the "maximum amount possible," especially considering the crude circumstances.

We will see what H's L pitches. But I don't see us agreeing. And I don't see me settling. Not this time.

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H got ANOTHER one of my days started with ANOTHER of his screw-ups. He started his own bank account and locked me out of being able to check the joint one online. In his paranoia, he did the very same thing about a month ago and then went through the steps to fix it. This time, he told me - in no uncertain terms - that he "just went through this last month," so I'd need to fix his screw-up myself. While I'm at the beach with the kids. And he's home by himself.

I swear, looking back, I feel like my ENTIRE marriage has been me cleaning up his messes, beginning with the birth of his and his mistresses' child in 2006 ... two months after I birthed S7. I stood beside that ba$tard while he took $750 a month out of the mouth of our son to give to her in CS. I stood by him, and fought beside him, while he paid that for SEVEN YEARS.

H signed over his paternal rights to his DD a little over a year ago; she was adopted by OW#1's new H.

So, yeah, as soon as the "consequences" of his first screw-up were "paid," he starts all over, ditching me ... again.

I hate him SO badly right now ...

I just want out from under him. Yesterday.

Vent over.

Calling all vets: I'm going to have some questions later this week about how to state boundaries. I know how to set them, but I have no practice in STATING them. I usually just set them without saying anything.

But for now, I'm too busy enjoying my view of a beautiful ocean. H wants me to be as miserable as he is. But he can wait a week.