Still trying to save my family - part 11

[AKHope]

I believe I can be that patient. It's always great to hear about couples reuniting. There are a lot of obstacles, to say the least, for my W and I to overcome. I am willing to do whatever it takes.

I'd like everyone following this thread to have a look at this and PLEASE chime in on this one.

Scorp-

From the bottom of my heart, I'd like to see you become a success story.

What I see in the quote above is "hope and optimism". For real life, that's a good thing.

This, however, is a 'divorce in progress'

Your "hope and optimism" is called "WEAK SPOT" and your W knows it. She's had how many years to learn your 'buttons'? Thus the conversation. She has now confirmed the buttons still work and she knows how to press them for the required result. The result she wants is you to be weak; back down and cave in for the long shot chance of reconciliation.

You MUST acquire and hold the advantage here. Only from a position of strength will you be able to see what is actually happening and ACT rather than REACT.

Otherwise you will leave both your future and that of your kids "On the table" for a desired outcome that everyone else here will tell you is a "slim to none" proposition.

And Mr Bond will be the first to admit that stuff didn't even start to change until he dealt with his W as no more than a business acquaintance. Perhaps even a competitor. Completely detach from her and your M. It is dead.

IF, and it's an IF, you are going to reconnect to your W as a relationship, it is going to be AFTER the divorce is sorted out. Maybe not signed but the sep agreement and the finances will be DONE.

You both need to know where this thing ends up so she can see how life is really going to be. And when the "Super Scorp" comes out of this with head held high; self-esteem and self-respect better than EVER; and back to being the masculine role model, then and only then, will she take another look.

And there is a lot of road to cover first.

Anyone here disagree with my point or my motives in pushing Mr Scorp this hard?

Thanks all.

I sure hope this post hits the thread before it's irrelevant. Last one still AWOL from 12:45MT this morning

AK (21:40MT)