She told me she was pregnant 4 weeks ago and all her thoughts of going back to me were all just driven by her fights with OM. She was basically using me as her fall back guy because she's always believed that I would never do anything about it and go find somebody else.
I really recognized this Tuesday and just accepted that I had to file for divorce. Getting used as leverage and getting involved in their little dispute, where he was making all these threats was just so childish. I've been treated like absolute garbage by W and you know... I was just done. Thursday night I told her I was done and was going to be filing the next day.
And guess who calls me at 3 am. I thought that maybe W was having a medical problem so I answered. W said that OM got really mad at her and said he wanted nothing to do with the kid. W said she wanted to move away with me and make it work. I was like let's wait a week and see how you are. By 9 am they were back together.
She feels so guilty about how everything that has gone down that she's wants me to have the kids full time, except for every other weekend. This came about because a couple of friends of hers have told me they think OM is eventually going to abuse her. And even my W has told me she can't guarantee that won't happen.... I told her she can do what she wants but I don't my kids to ever see that. She must agree, but thinks its worth it i guess. I don't see this ending well for her.
I've tried to protect her, but she only wants to use me as a safety net. I guess I can do that for her... Just not as her husband. You know I'm not perfect, but I think I can do better than this.
