She left - 3

[gogofo]

Then become the best spouse that she would be a fool to leave.
One way to address this is to try to include W more in decisions and choices that you are weighing on various matters such as child care, school, hobbies, work, purchases, etc. Saying "what do you think" would do wonders for W and your marriage.

She said she really feels that I don't know or like her, this being a result of my actions making her feel not respected.

Pay ATTENTION to this gem from W. What are you going to do going forward to address this particular concern for W?

Now that you've had this long R discussion, I am seeing that you are wanting to prolong this by extending more invitations to W. I'd say..."slow down" and pace those invitations. You would not want to inundate her with a gazillion invitations and smother her. Make her miss you a bit.

I want to say this as gently as possible with the goal of making you aware: this is not piecing or R. Your W isn't clear in either direction. Just leave her be to allow her time and space to process this talk.

Good job!

I will have to work in asking her input about things without seeming like I am in pursuit.

About W feeling like I don't know her, I am going to be studying her and trying to notice details that would have failed me before. I will be listening with my heart and even jotting down notes about her. I am also going to continue to be fully supportive of her and what she is doing or wants to do.

I also need to review one of the books I read that had tips for paying attention and knowing your spouse.

I understand that we are not piecing, I realized this after thinking about where we are with each other. I can give her the space and time she needs and not overwhelm her with invitations. We are going to have dinner again this coming Thursday. I do not think I will invite her to Easter dinner, she can miss me.

I am good at giving her time and space, have been this whole time. Easter morning is the first time I have invited her to anything since starting DBing.