She left - 3

[gogofo]

I felt like I needed to have the vasectomy because I was scared of having another baby by accident. I let fear and feelings of inadequacy overcome me and I no longer trusted birth control. I was flat out scared.

When our first child was born my W was in active labor for 14 hours. The child had to be assisted in birth with the head forceps and pulled out. At the end of it she almost needed a blood transfusion. I was terrified by the time it was all over.

With the second child the W was in stage one labor for a week. She broke out with a rash on her face and hands which could have been a sign of fetal issues and liver issues with the mom. We did not have access to a doctor to check the rash and the OBGYN had no idea what it was.

Neither was a smooth pregnancy and the first birth would have taken my W or son or both had it not been for modern medicine.

These two things coupled with the very difficult second child had me terrified of having another. I did not even feel comfortable trusting birth control. I know all these reasons are selfish but this is how I felt at that time.