"I think it's harder for her to let go of resentments & that's not a great trait to admit having. Honest reflection about HER choices, is also way too hard for her at this time. So she'll have to convince herself of your flaws. And then continue to do so....and In the face of goodness at your end, that task will become increasingly difficult."
I've got to run, 25 - but honestly -- what does "goodness" look like on my end?? I don't know. Am I still supposed to send her pictures and updates of S when I have him? I know she likes them, but I just don't want to do it anymore...at least not for now. She will take it as retaliation and an affirmation of her negative opinions.
I've gotta go...more later on your post, which was wonderful. But really, help me answer that one.
