Last night was interesting. H mentioned that he was going to get a loan from a friend to get his truck repaired and he wanted to use the title as collateral. I told H I was fine with him getting a loan but I was not going to give him the title to use as collateral. The reason why I do not agree is because he is not responsible. H does not pay his bills timely and I don't want to risk losing the truck that he just had to have. He could not get approved so I had to put the truck in my name which made me responsible for making sure the notes were paid and paid on time. Half the time, he claimed he did not have the money. H borrowed 2k from my mother the last time the truck needed repairs and never paid her back. I ended up paying my mother back her money. I also paid the $500 note for most of the loan duration because he was spending his $$ on OW and not taking care of home.(I did not say this to him. Just thinking it) Needless to say he got angry and went on a rant. Told me I could do what I wanted with the truck. He was going to buy him another one. I did say anything else. I kept my thoughts to myself.
This is another one of his tactics. It's either a pity party or he gets angry which would have resulted in me giving in but not this time. It's not that I don't want to help him and I could pay for the repairs if I wanted to but I am tired of bailing H out. I NEED him to take care of business. I'm tired of handling every business aspect of our relationship and having to make all the decisions while he reaps the benefits or complains about the decisions I make. I just don't want to have to worry about everything.
Last week, I hired a lawn man to cut grass and trim the trees because my yard looked horrible. H kept promising to do something but never did. Afterward he liked the job but complained about how much the man charged (which I paid). I had to do something. The neighbors started to complain. I wanted to say something to him about not doing the yard himself but I remained silent on that issue.
H also mentioned changing his phone number last night. He suggested I change my number so that OW does not try to contact me. I told him the purpose of changing his number is so that OW cannot call HIM. I am not the person she had the A with. Why is he trying to make this about ME?
Later on we went out for dinner and drinks to celebrate a mutual friend graduation. No more talk about the truck or phone. Will this trigger something and throw him back into the arms of OW? Possibly, possibly not. We'll just have to wait and see.
