I get the "soap opera combined with a game of chess" analogy. I leave the house wondering if I played it correct. If I said something she could use against me later or gave her information to attack me with later. I think part of detaching is letting them think what they will and getting on with life...but it is SO HARD.
I just try to make things more normal for the kids and be involved.
I offered to take her motorcycle to the shop if she needs it in exchange for baked goods. I then spent the next few hours second guessing if she would take the offer as she couldn't do it herself and is only good at baking.
I then realized I could bake the stuff myself once I get into new apartment (no oven here) and my offer was out of kindness not control.
My head spins about this stuff sometimes....


BD OM EA 9/2013
ICAYBDNLY 10/2013
I Move out 1/2014
Separation draft sent 5/2014
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