There is not much relationship beetwin me and XH. He text me here and there. The last convo ( spew, not last text ) was in Feb. of this year. However, this year, something is different. He has apologized for his spew and had speak out of anger. When my son moved in with him, it had opened doors for XH to become a nightmare for me once again. But since, XH has gotten an inside view of what raising children is. He has also notice that children will play the game to get things for themselves. Face it, my son is 15..None of his behavior is abnormal but I will stand my ground as an adult and a parent. I told my XH last year that I do raise my voice to the kids and that I would have discipline and respect in my home.. 2 weeks ago, XH and son got into a heated argument and XH texted me about it. He was putting emphases on the words " raised my voice, didn' t yell at him like he says I did ".. My answer was: I know what it is like, I am not judging you but thanks for letting me know. XH replied: It couldn't had been easy for you dealing with all 4. I know what Son did to you, I SEE.. I responded with: Life is never easy.. it takes constant work, devotion and determination.. the reward is the " global end product" of all the investment you put in...All we can do is our best. I needed your help and I am VERY thankful that you came through. A few text exchanged has happened since but about basic stuff.
XH has lost relationship with daughter 18. They talk business only with regard of her shcool finance. D18 cannot stand the new OW in his life and has made it clear to him not to come around her when she is with him. My other 2 daughters still see him on his week-end but D13 is starting to stay home more and more. At XH house, her son has moved out last week, after a fight with his mother. My son has been here last week-end, this week-end and is mentioning applying for work here for the summer..
As for myself, you are right, I don' t feel ready nor does it feel right to be in a relationship. I might change my mind in a few years but for now, it doesn't feel right to me.
