No it has not always been like this. His family is quick to temper. They stomp around like 2 year olds and then they are done. Whereas my family is easy going and does not get upset.
He has always done the sleepwalking, and can be verbally nasty. He sleepwalks when stressed, which is now. The fake sleepwalking to have sex started with this whole ordeal.
The getting mad when I do things with kids is ridiculous. He was upset because we were not home when he usually calls. Ummmm that is why we have cell phones. I think he does not like losing control. Before this all happened I was a homebody and had few friends. I did not go out, I am a busy mom. It always drove him nuts that I did not have a best friend. Now it drives him nuts that I do have friends. He also is projecting his guilt on me. Accused me if cheating and lying.
I don't know, maybe there always has been abuse. I would say right now him refusing to come near me, and saying not nice things, and threatening divorce is abusive. If we ever try to reconcile, we will have a lot of work to do.
