Sometimes we have to say what we feel. Then, move on. My suggestion would be to stop discussing OW or potential OW (or women). I'm sure you are under a tremendous amount of stress doing most everything. I will tell you something. I don't homeschool, however I do everything else. And while I get tired and frustrated sometimes, my h was of zero help. He is in his own world and still manages to make each discussion about him and how he's been victimized.
Just leave your h alone. I know it's ridiculous watching them. My h has a double date with his 28gf and his new "best" friends who are 24 and 26. So how does the almost 41 yr old man with 3 kids fit in? Just let your h walk his walk and you focus on you and the kids. I promise that once you expect nothing from your h , you will feel more relaxed and happy.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer