own buz 27: finances, travel, mediation : STFU !

[makingmagic]

Tx Starsky... hmmm, I will review that... you may have a point.

I would say I am doing more of #2, but pushing down my expectations. Would that make it #1?

Marriage is a GREAT idea... but, I need to see his changes too. If he is incapable of those changes, Im not sure I want marriage from him then. I need to see if he is willing to make the efforts to change, to look at himself .. like I was forced to do too. This changed me... If he prefers to be his OLD self...then, I'm not certain I want it either... so at this point marriage suggestions are irrelevant. I am not suggesting he change... he needs to want to change for himself and to recognize the effort it takes to have a good relationship. It doesn't come as a given.

Im taking this time to treat it like an interviewing process... Im going to watch and see what he does and says... To listen really to what he wants in life and with who, etc.

Thanks for trying to hold me accountable to what you believed was my goal... and it still just might be... but, I need to see who he is first. Can I ask how you think I will get more of the same from him? I see it as His words and action beginnings are showing me that he does want more in life than what we had. That he is being a man of his word (always was) and that after our finances are behind us, he wants to explore reconciliation, possibly...that is why he is insistent on getting along and having coffee moments, etc. He even suggested a business road trip this past week.