Crimson......still just checkin' in.

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I know she's not cheating on me and she is well within her rights to do whatever she wants. I have no say or control at all.

I think something has got to be wrong with me. I should be able to not care by now.

Look Crimson it takes 2 to destroy a marriage, the thing is that what is done its done and you can use it on your own benefit, however dont be hard on yourself, a person who has an A to justify always will acusse you of it, you are "the reason" why they had an A . That its not always true, they choose something different and thats it, now its for them to face the consequences, when we start a R we always say to our new partner the same...if you cheat on me I am out, then sometimes they have an A and we dont respect our boundarie, thats when things start to get messy, and all the resentment takes place.

You are doing fine and you have to keep showing yourself that while another person involved there is no chance of having you around, once the OM its not around then and only then, small talks might take place, I know that it sounds like giving up but not, its respecting your boundary, at this point its important for her to realize that she can not talk to you because its your choice and its absolutelly as valid as her affair, however this time should be used for you to work on yourself and work on the things you dont like about you, nothing else.

Your kid its always gonna be your kid, you can talk to him and he will understand that at this point you cant talk to mom as before, its a situation that you have to detach from untill you are able to see things in a different way.