My WAW confuses me

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Thought I'd start a new thread as the old one was getting long. Link to old thread below.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2446072&page=1

So my W was over again tonight dropping off S again. She hung out for a while, casual conversation with laughing and acting completely comfortable. She says things recently that never make sense and I try not to think about, like I'm too good to her and she is more comfortable with me now than in the last couple years. Thats all fine and good but she still brings up the D now and then. Again tonight she reminds me that we haven't had a serious conversation about how we are going to proceed recently and we need to. I just responded with okay and tried to let it lie. Turned the conversation back to S upcoming birthday this July and Easter plans this weekend.

She can act so natural around me and tries to be funny. She lures me into some kind of comfort zone where I end up acting normal with her and then have to remind myself whats going on and that things aren't normal. It still doesn't make sense to me that we can get along as well as we do, can admit that we care deeply about one another (which we don't talk about recently, but its been said since BD), we never fight (not in years), and still she doesn't even look back like this is a mistake.

So as an answer to the above. My Wife does this all the time. She even did it at the Table with the Lawyers. The Collaborative Divorce Coach , a PHD in Psychology and family therapy said he also noticed her doing it to me in the parking lot. He claims that SHE IS SEDUCING ME with her looks and actions. He also told me she told him things about spending time with me etc...he said it completely has flabbergasted him that our relationship is breaking up we fought a lot and OM is offering her a life of travel, which the Coach says will wear off quickly.

So I think your WAW is also trying to seduce you into doing what she wants and still desiring her....

Its so tiring pretending to be happy. I wish I had more free time to GAL but with S living with me and the constant hand offs that are required each day I have so little time to do anything.