I think I belong here #2

[praying_in_GA]

Ok, I am not sure this was the right thing to do but it is done.

It has become the norm for me to text H something and he wait to respond...or never respond. It is about our kids. There is no reason to ignore me. It is rude. Whatever.

So, tonight I text and ask him if he can come home a little earlier tomorrow so I can go shopping for the kids Easter and my D2s birthday party on Sat. (He has spent the last 6 weeks going to play basketball and have lunch with his friends and not-girlfriend every Friday) I wait an hour and a half. No response.

I call the house since I need to tell the kids goodnight anyway. I ask him if he has seen my text. He says yes he has and he will see what he can do. I said that I needed a couple of hours without the kids to get the shopping done. He said he could come home and take D8 to practice (taking the other two with him) so I could go during practice. At this point I was getting angry. I told him it wasn't fair to make me miss D8s practice to go shopping so he could go see S (ow). I told him I understood that they were in the infatuation mode right now but he needed to come home and be a father as well. He diudn't take kindly to this and simply said he would see.

So, I stew for a min and send this text:
Can I ask why you refuse to respond to my texts? You just ignore me and think that is okay. It is rude and downright mean...If I were S you wouldhave responded instantly. I'm sorry I'm interfering with your life tomorrow but we both made these children and we will both continue to parent them until you leave them for the Navy.

H's response:
I'm pretty sure I'm parenting them right not.

And I open my mouth again:(He 'watches' them when I work three 12 hour night shifts...reminder, he is not working. He only goes to school and out with friends)

36 hours a week is not shared custody. You have free reign to go anywhere after school all the time. You go to lunch, basketball, wherever. I take care of them while you are out with your friends every Wednesday and Friday now. As long as you are home in time for me to go to work or for S7 to go to practice (he takes him one day a week, I take him the other), you have your freedom. You spent 4 hours at lunch on Wednesday. I spend every Friday at practice, get a 2 hour nap, then go back to practice.(I work every Wed & Thurs night 12 hours)I haven't asked you to come home in weeks. I am asking for this one day to go shopping for them and not have to miss D8s practice. I totally understand that you and S want to spend as much time together as you can. I have no issue with that...but always put your kids before her because when she is gone they will still be here waiting to see their Dad.

H reponded:
Very well said.


So, hit me with the 2x4 if you need to...did I royal step in it here?