New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks

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Yes, I think my H is a combined MLC/WAS, and may have more moments of clarity than some MLC'ers, who are REALLY in la-la land. Mine does come and visit reality every now and then. He held his real feelings inside for much of our marriage, as it turns out. I did a fair amount of that, too, so both of us are to blame. He's still doing this now, of course, so we are not talking much at all these days. Another reason he is not talking much is that he is angry that I am angry about OW. Huh.

tld -- the waiting until the work thing is done -- sounds like just an excuse to me. He doesn't really want to actually DO it, perhaps? My H has 'threatened' D 4 times now. So far, his actions just don't match his words...