Well, from what I understand, it's quite often the 'nice guy' (or gal in your case, nyk) that spends much of his or her life accommodating others, at the expense of their own happiness. Then, one day, they wake up and wonder how in the heck their life got to be what it is. Gee, I wonder why. If they keep saying 'whatever you want is fine' to other people, then where do they end up one day? In MLC, wondering what happened. This is how my H got to where he is today. And he still blames most of it on me. He thought he was being nice, and I was not being nice whenever I actually said what I wanted. I remember telling him more than once, 'I don't want to make all the decisions. I want to know what YOU really want!' <Sigh>

So, now, my H believes he is being nice also, by 'letting' me remain in the house for now, not 'bothering' me, not forcing the divorce issue, all while carrying on a PA. So warped...


Me 53, XH 57
M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids
BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15