The problem is that the other board has a very cut & dry approach... divorce her & throw her under the bus. Is that what you want?! From what I can gather you don't want a divorce, the advice on this board will be VERY different to what other boards advise and I would strongly suggest you stick with one approach as much as possible otherwise your going to be all over the place.

Man cave sounds like a great idea for somewhere to escape to and get away to if/when you want your own space, but to totally ignore her whilst living under the same roof, well I don't see how that would solve anything personally.

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