Life in a mess 2

[gogofo]

AndyK, my attitude is that to show my love and respect for my W, I will leave her alone and give her the time and space she needs. I cannot help her with her journey. And because I love her I will only contact her once a day to ask how the kids are. No contact or talk about us unless she initiates it.

Does my example make sense? I know it is hard and takes more practice than anything else you have probably tried. There is no quick fix, you have to work at it constantly or it will never come.

Also read the Livestrong article on lovingly detaching. Google it and read it. I printed it out and found it helpful to carry with me in times when I need to remind myself of my ultimate goal and what it takes to get there.

This is possible, but only through hard work.