Her FRIENDS think you are a credible threat, but does your WIFE? That is unclear from your post, Zew.
She says she isn't sure if I'll do it or not. She says she knows I'll be a total a$$hole in the proceedings.
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It took me BOTH filing AND busting her affair, AND playing a very forceful financial hand that I could play as the sole breadwinner for her to finally hit bottom and decide to come back to the marriage. It's not at all surprising to me that your wife still hasn't turned away from her path if you have only maybe ONE of those things working for you.
This would be totally outside of the DB playbook, which is not out of the question, given that her current plan is to cake eat for a year. This would not be "become the man she'd be crazy to leave", but "live up to the description of the financially controlling a$$hole she describes me as now."
I have told her I know of affair, but not with enough detail to blow my cover. She denies. Might be able to scare OM with a written summary of details asking for an explanation. Could blow my cover. Could easily convince OM's W. Admissible evidence is very unlikely given their MO. W has said she thinks OM wants to get caught. I see that as a sign that he is too weak to make his D call on his own, he wants his W to do it. Or that he'll only break A if someone else does it for him.
I could ratchet down finances to child support/alimony levels. W will have her own income within a few weeks. She will never, never, never, never understand what she will be facing financially until it happens to her, though.
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How did you answer your D12 btw?
She asked W, not me. I have no idea what her answer was.
