W's friends are advising her to get to L. They are afraid that I am going to have her served.
I am in no rush to do that, yet: 1. It wouldn't be DB 2. It would make me the bad guy 3. It's to my financial advantage to have her earn as much as possible at new job before figuring out alimony/support.
So, it would appear that she has credible threat of D by me. Yet, OM still in picture as of yesterday.
Her FRIENDS think you are a credible threat, but does your WIFE? That is unclear from your post, Zew.
Affairs are not only highly addictive, but they are also FILLED with resentment, and FUELED by entitlement. Especially for a woman who think she's been wronged. And if your wife (like mine was/is) is also naturally stubborn anyway???
It took me BOTH filing AND busting her affair, AND playing a very forceful financial hand that I could play as the sole breadwinner for her to finally hit bottom and decide to come back to the marriage. It's not at all surprising to me that your wife still hasn't turned away from her path if you have only maybe ONE of those things working for you.
