Well, it's done. My W was served with papers yesterday. The process server said she seemed shocked. For some reason she went out into her office (she was served at work) and announced to her coworkers "OMG, I've just been served.".
I haven't had any flak from her so far other than she dropped my last name from her FB account and is now only using her maiden name.
I have a feeling things are going to get much worse before they have a chance to get better.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS