I feel that my Xbf may be promoting himself to me to make sexual advances to him. Telling me that he is "hyper-sensitive" and "vulnerable", etc.... It appears as though he is also getting angry towards me (at times) for not giving in. ^^^^ This was MY job... to recognize his needs and to give in. I am not sure what I feel about this. I love sex with him. I would love to have sex with him, but I feel that if I do...then I send the message that I don't need a commitment (and I do). I also know that I would have major expectations after the fact. I would love to just say to him "buddy, sign here and you get the whole package!!!". I feel he is trying to make it "my idea" and removing himself from responsibility.
This of course is ALL mind reading.... however, I do know his sex drive and his "ways".
What message am I sending by not putting the moves on him, like he is wanting? What about flirting... in this circumstance what message would I be sending if I was flirting back? Would it state that I am interested but... sign the contract, already? or does it show that I am desperately waiting for his move?
Curious to know how to proceed? Opinions?
MY ANSWER: (as recently discovered, I need to find my own answer)..... I think I should just continue to keep myself to myself, respect myself. I don't want to wreck all of my efforts of him finally respecting me, but I don't want to lose him over this either. I miss physical touch.
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OK... back to focus on ME... trying on "single" today.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
