"I just want to show her how much I love her!" "I just want my wife back that's all I know!"
I just reread through this thread, and I haven't seen that you are on a path to this. The divorce coach may have just been asking YOU whether (and why) YOU still want her as your wife (without putting his/her own judgment on it. It doesn't matter what the coach thinks of her--it matters what YOU think of her). If you love her and want her back, then you have to take ownership for your part in the failure of the marriage and make changes in YOURSELF that will show her the future with you would be different. (Or, at the very least, make changes in yourself that would ensure that your next relationship will be different.
"I also started to remember all the Cr@p I used to have to put up with." "I am just to good a person to deal with all this crap." Hmmm... What was YOUR part in it, and what can YOU change about yourself? Focus on YOU.
Thanks...I know my part boy do I... I am starting to understand.. Forget her and her part just worry about fixing and changing me!
