Funeral for a husband, love lies bleeding

[cczamo]

Well my tax season is over and I'm able to breathe again today 4/16!! But H decides to bombard me with texts emails and phone calls about moving divorce forward. Geesh! H doesnt even let me have one day of freedom after working every day since Feb 1st! I went for a run, and he called 2 times. i of course dont answer when running (H doesnt even take cell phone on his runs). I get back home to computer and see he's emailed that i "obviously only want to respond to email not texts or phone calls, so i can have documentation", and "I guess we will just cease all communications." I'd reiterated via email response that its better if temporarily, we dont see each other or have phone conversations as I'm still apt to say something hurtful out of my anger. I said is only temporary, but I'm not sure when I'll be ready to talk--but it's only been less than a week from me discovering OW.
One of H texts is asking me to if I've heard back from my cousin, who's drawing up our D papers. I only sent the email to cousin on Sunday afternoon. H is like a kid on a car ride, "are we there yet? "Are we there yet?" Obviously, H cant get D fast enough. I dont know if OW (who is married still) is pushing him, or if he's afraid he'll change his mind? Why the frantic attitude? What is the rush? I've already told him that i will comply. H has been nicer to me though, since the OW was discovered last Friday. I know H is concerned that I might contact the H of OW. Today H sent 4 texts, 4 emails and H attempted calling me 3 times. All about different issues in relation to winding up his stuff's move out May 2. H has already moved out to hotel on 4/14. In one of his emails to me today H wrote, "I acknowledge your anger. I am not happy about the chunk of change I'm outlaying for temporary living arrangement."
H then proceeds to forward email to me from his boss, who has asked H to pick one of two available dates to meet H's company's (Fortune 200) CIO. H indicated to his boss that neither of those dates are available, as he will be moving. The email chain continues with his boss asking about availability on weeks before or after May 2. H writes to boss "I am not open to anytime that week or the following week Sorry…. I have very rarely asked for any type of special dispensation, but this is one of those times.
Hopefully this isn't career limiting but it is what it is... " H forwards to me with comment: "i dont even care anymore." H is in major self-destructive mode lately. I pray for him, even though I cant live with him.
I cannot believe H is destroying so much of what he's worked very hard for years to attain. Our house, (3/27/14 I bought his equity out), his job, which he took such pride in attaining his level. Most importantly H destroyed our M, which HE pursued me relentlessly for years, when I wasnt initially even that interested in him. All through out M,even up to 2 years ago, H, when introducing himself to people would say "I'm her LAST husband" when I'd say "This is my second husband."

Confused. I know I shouldnt try to understand or get answers.