tld -- I've found we HAVE to maintain a sense of humor about all of this. It's a really good way to deal with it. And someday, we'll look back on it all and have a good, long belly laugh. This board makes me laugh daily. (So does my MLC H, these days, though it took a while for me to get to where I could laugh about it.) It really helps. Hang in there, and I'm sorry I don't have any lawyerly advice for you...
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15