kml: I'm sorry, but this almost made me laugh out loud. He just doesn't see why you're bothered by this?
I know, right? What kind of wife would be bothered by her H having an affair?
Just came from the first MC session.
I liked the doctor.
The doctor seemed to totally "get" why I don't appreciate H continuing his "friendship" with OW.
H did most of the talking. Last night, in discussion of the pending appointment H announced he wasn't going to talk at all. Lol, that'd be the day...
Dr. kept coming back to H with, "So, it's the H-show and Jaye is just a part of the scenery for you?"
H characterized OW as someone with "problems and issues". Revealed she is on "all sort of medications which she says make her brain vibrate." (What a gift that was to me lol. H might shoulda never said that... )
H characterized me as an introvert with no friends. I broke in and said, "Wait. You told me just the other day that one of the main reasons you hang on to OW is because you have no friends. I however have friends. I have X, Y, Z and Q."
H says, "Q is not much of a friend."
Dr. "What's wrong with Q?
Jaye, "Q is not very attractive and so is not worthy according to H."
H "No, she's a total basket case. Not much of a friend!"
Jaye, "Q is a basket case? You're the one who has a gf with a vibrating brain and you call Q a basket case?!?"
(The Dr. laughed. Not sure if he was supposed to, but lol, who wouldn't?)
I cried several times, cause hey, its my strength.
And H's eyes were red by the end.
And we have 2 more appointments scheduled.
I feel pretty good right now. Nice to connect with a human being, male at that, who says what H is doing is not a good thing.
Do I think this is going to fix our M? I'd have to say probably not. H said in response to the suggestion of giving up OW "If it isn't this OW it will be somebody else." This is something I knew of course, but it was interesting to hear it from H.
But doesn't give me much desire to continue the M.
4 more free visits. Next one is Monday.
Take care all.
Don't let your brains vibrate too much
~~Jaye
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
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