It seems your h is using intimidation to try and control you. Don't let him.

You are the girl's mother, you have every right to spend time with them and do things with them. You don't need your H's approval or permission to do so.

I understand about the h and ow working together, as that is my situation as well. I will warn you, they do become extremely protective and defensive of the ow. Don't say anything about her if you can help it. This only adds to the drama, and draws them closer together.

While I wouldn't recommend getting involved in the huge mess your h is creating at work - and trust me, he is, he just doesn't realize it yet - I wouldn't worry about protecting him from the work related consequences of his affair. He and ow may be living in fantasy land, but I guarantee their coworkers are not.

Focus on you and the girls. He is way out there right now...

Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me

~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."