Tarheel, Devaste, I tend to agree. If she asks, I would reiterate separation from OM as a precondition to MC. Anything less means she's hedging and isn't serious. If we go to MC, we need to both go in willing to face our issues with full honesty and commitment to R.
She isn't ready to accept that answer, but I believe it is the only answer. Nor is she ready to go to MC. And I don't know if she'll ever get to the point of being able to say there was an OM, and not fear that I'll never forgive her.
On the other hand, while I understand Ye's "just go with it and see what happens" perspective, I think it would be just accepting whatever she is willing to offer. My gut says that this is just gamesmanship, it will just give her a moderated soapbox.
