Stuck On You

[Raine]

I don't like to brag, and it's so much easier to focus on him...but since you want to know...

I'm hitting some pretty big marks in the PA category. I think the term he used was "insatiable," with a wicked grin on his face. (Oh, I don't "think" I "know" that's what he said.) I initiate, he initiates. There is a lot of ML, a lot of kissing, hugging, touching from both sides. Just this ever present need to be next to each other. I tease him, joke with him, just simply adore him. I kiss him and hug him whenever he is going or returning. Yes a very physical relationship that both of us think is amazing and better than it has ever been before or with anyone.

I compliment him, a lot, daily+. His appearance, his mind, his achievements. I tell him I'm proud of him. I brag about him. I admire him as a husband, father, provider. I text him sweet stuff, sexy stuff, I miss you, I love you, I want you kinds of stuff. I call him. I'm excited when he calls me. I react positively to him, always. I look nice, always, especially when we are going out together or before bed.

I go out of my way to make time spent together special. We go out a heck of a lot, to the point we really need to cut down because I think we're burning it at both ends. Concerts a few times a month, musicals, movies, dinner, games, cooking classes, shooting range, you name it, we'll try it. Friends on FB are always commenting on how they love seeing what we are up to, how do we manage it all, and what are we doing next. He plans a lot and I plan a lot. We have playlists and mementos from events we share together. I made his birthday extra special with multiple surprises, including putting together a video for him that ended up spreading all through his office. He had people he barely knew coming up to him and telling him how awesome his wife is and how great the video was.

I setup an app for lists and goals and bucket lists that sync between our phones. He loves this and adds to it. He mentions something, and I find a way to get it or make it happen. I don't have to nag him about things, like I would anyway, but the list is there for both of us. Even outside of the list, I'm taking care of things. Like he mentions an artist and I'll put their new album on his itunes. I'm always finding new ways to surprise him. I take care of things for him, like taking his shirts to the cleaners without him noticing. I always thank him and try to notice everything he does for me and the family too, and thank him for it.

I get up with him the morning, make sure he has things ready for the day, stuff for breakfast, his lunch, vitamins, etc. Time in the morning isn't just about getting the kids out the door, he is part of being taken care of too.

Above all, I'm a really good listener. I'm understanding and non-judging. Some of this stuff is super hard, and yeah, I have emotional reactions to it, but not anger or pulling away from him in anyway. I am pretty dang easy to talk to, to the point he feels like he has probably over-shared a few times. I have been very forgiving. I am working on fully getting there. I feel like when I do, I will no longer hold on to the past I thought I wanted. Everything is out in the open. I talk to him about things too. He knows I have a support group. He even knows about certain sitches too. He doesn't like to be compared to them in anyway of course. Nope, his journey is his and he is unique.

His relationship with the kids is amazing. He is all over it. He makes sure they are doing what they are supposed to be doing. He does homework with them, reads with him, plans special outings with them. He has setup Sunday afternoon family time and we watch a movie together and play games together and one night a week we go out as a family together to different places like a museum, activity, or grabbing ice cream. He is there for parent/teacher events too and shares in running them to appt or practices.

He is really close with the baby, getting up to take care of the baby or feeding him, changing diapers and playing with the toys with him. He is very protective and watchful of him and all the boys.

Life is amazing!