My H has never asked for divorce & said on many occasions that he doesn't see divorce as an option at the moment. We both agree thats where it looks like it might be heading, but neither of us want to take that step yet as neither of us really knows what we want - me included.
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you have been doing great in many ways, I believe and maybe I am seeing this different, that you see him as an addict and you still think that you can help him in a way and rescue him out of his problems...
Believe me I KNOW that I cant rescue him from his problems! I tried for a long time to help him but I know now that there is only one person that can help him & that's himself. I understand how you may think its that way but i'm way beyond that stage, I spent months in counselling alongside his rehab & know that none of it is my fault or within my control.
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Did you have this conversation with him "with an intention to wake him up"?
He asked for the conversation - I know nothing I do or say will "wake him up" and the convo was nothing like that anyway. I was angry so he asked me to tell him why, I expressed that I would not tolerate being treated like crap by him or anyone else & the way he'd spoken to me earlier in the day was not fair (it was way out of line!). It may not be strictly DB but it needed saying, I will not tolerate being treated like rubbish!
He got angry - then apologised & took full responsibiltiy and agreed that it was wrong of him to speak to me like he had, he was tired & I caught him in a bad mood.
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
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