Upwards - Moving Fowards, Tiny Positive Steps

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Thanks Breakdown

Why do you think having a heated discussion clears the air? Why do you think saying anything at this point improves the situation?

It was my H that requested we talk - I was basically tired of him not having any empathy towards me & called him on it (prob shouldn't have but I spent a long time being too afraid to say how I felt & so I just did it, I wish I hasn't but it's done now. He got angry then admitted it's because the guilt overwhelms him. It wasn't a big row, just a few things said that had been building up for us both I suppose.

I do think you can mentally prepare to an extent. Accepting it actually can remove some stress. The uncertainty of "am I or aren't I" really is an unhealthy place.

Yes that makes sense, I'm getting there slowly I think.

First, you have to accept that you can only control you....regardless what you would like your H to do, that's for him to decide. Second, you have to accept that you will be ok regardless of your H's decisions. Again, it's going to take some time and some practice, and throwing in some GAL is incredibly helpful as well.

I know I can only control me & I'm trying that to the best of my ability, trying hard to remain detached but keep backsliding - been doing a lot of soul searching & I'm trying to figure out WHY I keep backsliding so I can work on it.

My GAL has been slow because of the kids being off school so that's probably impacted, I feel like I've had very little "me time" recently.