Oh, also... how do I respond to the email giving me compliments for handling our situation so well and saying that in many ways I've handled it better than he has??? Do I respond? I am letting myself sit on it for a couple of days. Thinking of saying, "Yes, I do feel quite confident and proud. Thank you for the kind words."
Changes are for you, and its great he can see that. You dont need to respond, create mistery around it, let him continue to see the changes despite how he reacts towards them.
You are a new you in a path to a better life, if he wants to be around he is going to have to show more than a few compliments
Say thank you to God not to him, God thank you for helping me in this changes and thank you for taking care of H and showing him how to be more healthy!!
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.