I would say that I am half of a workaholic. What I really am is dedicated to my job, but as a partner in the company it is expected. I know some would look at me and think I work too much, but I know others who I would consider workaholics. I enjoy my free time and don't feel like I need to work constantly.
Things have changed in my attitude NOW after BD about work but previously I was probably 50% to 75% a workaholic.
I do not have an IC. I have a friend who mentioned he sees one and it has helped him with food addiction issues. It is something I considered early in my situation but I feel I have made great strides without one, so far. When we had our first blowup when I pursued right after it hit me like what alcoholics call a "moment of clarity". I have treated it like that everyday since then. It was my moment to drop my former life and build a new one for me with using lessons from the past and newly gained skills. This forum has also basically been my IC (internet counselor.)
The balance in my life has come back very close to center with adjustments I have made with myself and with my work. I have started to delegate more work to others and realize that I cannot or do not need to do everything myself. Another control issue I have been working through.
Right now I do not have a timeline of when I would expect her back in the house. I just want us to try to date and reconcile again. My timeline is open ended.
LA: What do you mean by the mission statement? I am a little foggy on this.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
