gogofo, I think your insight is great, now if you can just stay with that and not allow the pressure to succeed or be the best to trip you up. Life is about balance, and your life was completely out of balance. Would you say you're a workaholic? That word has become cliched but that doesn't mean the phenomenon doesn't exist.

How will you deal with your out of balance life? Do you have an IC?

I think it's good you've allowed this to go at your W's pace. But I would say IF she's thinking of trying again that you dictate the pace, the very slow pace. You are a previous offender. smile

My H and I took about 6 months of dating (each other) we'd been apart of 2.5 years. I had done a lot of work on me during that time apart and continue to do so. I read a story of another couple who dated for a year before moving back in together. They both had IC during that year.

It's so easy to fall back into our automatic thinking.

The stakes here are high and precious.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss