Mach is hitting you with good stuff.....One thing I want to mention though. Life change...Perception change....Really isn't about goals or deadlines. The reality is there is only one true goal to change and that is to start changing...embrace change!
It is like a boulder at the top of an endless mountain....Once the boulder starts to roll, it just keeps on rolling. Never stopping....Just continuously moving forward until you reach the bottom of the mountain (of course the mountain is life and the bottom of it...well that is the end and a whole different conversation lol). It is a day by day thing...The little things adding up to a better you.
As for the cars...While I do see your point, I agree with Mach. In the bigger picture of true independence, her car is hers to take care of. Your car is yours. I often share vehicles with a neighbor....while we do fill up the gas tanks, neither of us would ask for or pay for big repairs etc. So would you pay for a friend to have their car repairs done?
And yes....that in itself is accepting the big picture for you.
