Life in a mess 2

[MrBond]

"I hope you see my point."

Yes I do and it's a childish point. For someone who claims to be intellectually superior to his spouse, you haven't been acting that way.

I said that you "should have been doing that since Day 1" which refers to the idea that you should have tried understanding 'why' and 'what caused your situation' since that time. Plus you should know that what I said was merely a figure of speech and not literal Day 1.

"During that time I have begun to realise that I had a huge part to play in it. I am willing to shoulder whatever blame is thrust on me for how we got here as I sure there is lots."

That is what I was referring to.

"But please don't tell me that I should have known this from Day 1."

Again, that's not what I said. Go back and read it again in case you missed it.

"You have no idea how much she has done in between that I haven't even mentioned on here as it happened before I joined."

You don't need to. I and others have been there and done that. We get it.

"I get your 'tough love' approach but I think you need to see the whole picture before passing judgement."

This is a laughable statement. In fact, what happened in my situation makes yours seem minor in comparison. I don't preach "tough love". I was merely pointing out that in the beginning you refused to take any responsibility for your current situation. All I did was repeat and bring out issues that your W probably mentioned to you before. No tough love there. It was just pointing out what you didn't or didn't want to see.