Right I'm 24 today, it's my birthday. My W is 20 and is turning 21 on 18th august. we got married last year two days after her birthday on august 20th. We started going out in may 2010.
Ever since we got married I been a lousy husband always going out to smoke weed. Pretty much everyday. I would come home late and would leave her alone and feeling neglect.
once we got married she moved in with my family, however they treated her awfully and put so much blame on her.
my W has had a terrible past where her parents got divorced when she was around six and she had to go into foster care at 11.
She's forever missed her parents and wanted a mother, which she thought she could get through me but my mother treated her awfully.
she kept asking me to change and stop going out, she would write notes on her phone and they were very disturbing.
Then later she stopped trying and didn't really care what I did much. Then once my mother saw her going out with me and thought she was wearing a see through dress and started a huge saying she's a bad girl and she wants her out the house.
this probably felt like her having to leave her family like before. She then went and stayed over at her foster carers for three days and when she got back she was a changed woman. This was a month ago when she got back and gave me the ultimatum. My mothers kicked us both out because I was on her side.
since then I have changed so much I never go out I quit smoking weed, and give her all of my time but she now thinks I'm too clingy and obsessive.
we applied for a flat and have been doing it up and moving in next week. She says she wants me out after a month and how there is nothing I can do to change her mind. Then we got into an argument one day and she said she didn't want me to move in at all so we don't create new memories. But then when everything calmed and we got along again I told her I didnt want to be selfish and its up to her if she wanted me to move in and she said she dont know her minds all over the place.
I later asked in the evening and she said she did want me moving in. She's become so physical recently and shes started hanging out with a friend that doesnt like me and vice versa.
She says she doesnt know who she is anymore and wants to just focus on herself.
I said im going to give blood as I want to be a better person and she didnt really believe me until she saw the papers which was yesterday and she went mad. Ive been depressed and havn't been eating much and she said that im too weak to give it.
shes so weird I feel like I have a chance but when we've spoken about it shes always given me a firm answer even if everything was ok with us. But truelly isnt.
I just dont know what to do. I love this woman to bits and would do anything for her. She feels that ive changed but too late.
