I haven't posted here in a while. I started a thread in "surviving the big D". I am still actively working on my DBing skills, because I still wish to improve myself. I want to be the spouse only a fool would leave....for the next Wife!
STBXW and I will be starting mediation next week. We have been keeping our distance from each other, living our own lives and the tension is still pretty high. It is weird how this process affects us. STBXW is a complete stranger to me now. I think I have finally reached that point where I have decided the marriage isn't even worth saving. That's hard to stomach, but I honestly don't think I would ever want her back....too much damage, for too long. I am done.
I do have a question that I thought might be better suited for the new comers section. Wife sent me a text today, asking if it would be okay for her to come visit one of her friends at our business this weekend.... Easter weekend, the week before we start mediation, and she wants to come socialize in my backyard. She has bad mouthed my family, made slanderous comments on facebook about us, told me that she wanted out of the marriage, that her life is so much better without me... but she wants to come visit her friend in my backyard? I am sure you know my feelings about this, but I do not know how to reply to her request. I realize I should probably be a bigger person and just allow it, but I am at the point with this woman, that I am done with her selfishness. I am done with her hurting me. How do I tell her in a polite "DB" way, that she can go pound sand? I want to be a good person, but this just seems like another stake in my chest.Let her friend visit her at HER house. She literally lives 15 minutes away. Am I being too sensitive about this, or should I stand my ground and let her know she is no longer welcome here?
