5 months of heck...ugh

[MrBond]

"I missed why you thought it was important to know that h felt like I abandoned him?"

It's important because due to your illness and your attention to the kids, he might have felt empty and lonely. I'm sure he didn't tell you because he probably felt guilty about bringing it up since you didn't have any control over your illness and he can't say anything about the kids since it would make him seem selfish in wanting your time over the kids. I would say for the majority of marriages, the lack of attention that a W gives her H because she gives that attention to the kids is a big problem.

Sometimes when a man complains or tries to talk to their spouse about it, the W acts as if the H is being selfish or thinks that he's trying to get her to choose between him or their children. That's not the point at all. The W needs to understand that she has to find that balance between being a mother and being a wife. The same way a man has to balance between being a father and husband.