I would think you need to separate parenting from moving. From what you say ^^^, then all military brats are unstable people! They move more than regular Joes. Right?
I get that Wonka. Although, I did not mean that it makes the kids unstable. There are lots and lots of very stable people that live and function in highly unstable environments, but I get your point. I have a handful of military in my family, and it is something I am completely aware of. I will say a couple things about it though. First and foremost, there is a difference between a "together" military family and a divorced military family. I've seen both sides of it. A "together" military family literally stays together as a family unit. Granted, that isn't as bad of a deal for the kids. But with divorced transfers, there is a HUGE amount of family connection that is lost. The same holds true for my situation. If stbbxw decides to move, I can not ask for a transfer. My life is here, with my business, my home and my family. It would be very difficult for me to leave, just so that I could relocate to wherever stbxw chooses to live at that point in time. That is my biggest concern, that there will be a geographic separation of my daughters family. I hope that makes sense. On a final note. Yes, I do think that the military life of relocating and uprooting children is very challenging for them. I have a cousin who just recently transferred. His daughters relocated all the way across the country, from Washington D.C. to the Pacific Northwest, leaving their friends behind. Now, they get to start over building emotional connections with new people. They have done this their whole lives. At some point, they will have to leave these people as well. I don't care what anyone says. It is BRUTALLY tough on them. Every Army Brat I know HATES that part.
