I used to wonder that about H's family. I wrote about it a lot here. I was putting my expectations of right actions on other people. That's not what they do and if I'm looking for that kind of support from them, I might as well go to the hardware store for bread.(love AlAnon slogans)
They are who they are and we can have a fine R but it won't include that kind of support.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss